Even after your contacts with the person are gone after the break up, there may be one huge load of emotional stuff that you need to ventilate. Since the significant one who used to be always there for you, has already gone and is now the reason for your pain, you have to count on your friends and family for support. Select the best of your friends and ventilate your feelings. Cry if you feel like crying. Laugh if you feel like laughing. Ventilate yourself completely. Make sure that you don’t do this in public. Try to make this phase as short as possible, or most likely your friends and family will get bored hearing the same thing again and again.

You are not the one who ditched someone. You were the one who got dumped. So you have no reason for being guilty. You might have made a thousand mistakes in the past. The question is whether you were ready to change and correct them. Have you expressed your apology and willingness for change to your ex? If so, your role in the play is totally over. You have done all that you could do. Now the ball is in the other court. Anything that can be done to this relationship can be done only by your ex, since you have already done all that you could do. Remember the temple example. You – the single pillar alone cannot hold the temple from falling.

Did you know that love failures can be a very good inspiring force that drives creativity in artists, poets and writers? Even I could write a touching story after my break up and is now working on an elaborate novel. So why can’t you do the same? Try expressing your pain through some form of creativity. It gives ventilation to your feelings. Write everything down. Ignore faces for a moment or the pain it would cause to them. Simply put them down on the paper.