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having managed to move on with your
life somehow doesn’t mean that
you recovered successfully from the
break up. You might end up spending
several years hopelessly thinking about
your ex and cursing your mistakes. Our
target should be the shortest time-span
of pain and being able to move on to
a happier life than ever before. Following
these things in your life can definitely
help you in that.
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Be strong and courageous: |
Being strong doesn’t mean
being insensitive, non-sentimental
or heartless. A person who is strong
faces a situation calmly instead
of running away from it. If you
want to be one of that kind, boldly
face the break up situation. Never
create unwanted emotional scenes
in public. Face the world with a
smile even if there is a storm inside.
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If
you and your ex girlfriend/boyfriend happen
to meet after the break up and if the person
is childish he/she might perform a variety
of show-offs in front of you simply to hurt
your ego. There lies a single solution- Ignore.
Visualizing your ex as a kid can let you laugh
at these petty show offs. If you are lucky
enough to have an ex who handles situations
in a mature way, your pain will be considerably
low during the process of break up recovery.
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Ventilate your feelings before you move
forward:
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Even after your contacts with the
person are gone after the break up,
there may be one huge load of emotional
stuff that you need to ventilate.
Since the significant one who used
to be always there for you, has already
gone and is now the reason for your
pain, you have to count on your friends
and family for support. Select the
best of your friends and ventilate
your feelings. Cry if you feel like
crying. Laugh if you feel like laughing.
Ventilate yourself completely. Make
sure that you don’t do this
in public. Try to make this phase
as short as possible, or most likely
your friends and family will get bored
hearing the same thing again and again.
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Stop feeling guilty:
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You are not the one who ditched someone.
You were the one who got dumped. So
you have no reason for being guilty.
You might have made a thousand mistakes
in the past. The question is whether
you were ready to change and correct
them. Have you expressed your apology
and willingness for change to your
ex? If so, your role in the play is
totally over. You have done all that
you could do. Now the ball is in the
other court. Anything that can be
done to this relationship can be done
only by your ex, since you have already
done all that you could do. Remember
the temple example. You – the
single pillar alone cannot hold the
temple from falling.
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Never let your self-esteem go down: |
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Your self-esteem might have to face
a serious blow after getting dumped.
A thousand questions popping out of
nowhere virtually makes you doubt
your own self-worth. The break up
situation gets worse if your ex simply
walked away without even showing concern
to explain things- directly, through
a phone call or atleast through an
email. You might feel like being in
the center of a tornado of emotions
where your friends, collegues, everyone
starts throwing questions at you.
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How
ever depressing the situation be, never let
your self-esteem go down because of this break
up. Rely on your true friends and let them
know that you need help. Friends can give
you enormous support during these times. They
can boost your self-esteem, get you engaged
and happy. Use this time to do all the things
you have always wanted to do.
Go to
the gym and pump some iron. It will keep your
hormones under check and also gives you a
physique you can be proud of. Try on a different
hair style, hair colour or what ever you like.
Flirt, make friends and go to parties more
often. If you are the one who got dumped,
you have no reason to feel guilty in doing
anything. Truly enjoy every moment of your
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Gain Inspiration from the fall: |
Did you know that love failures can
be a very good inspiring force that
drives creativity in artists, poets
and writers? Even I could write a
touching story after my break up and
is now working on an elaborate novel.
So why can’t you do the same?
Try expressing your pain through some
form of creativity. It gives ventilation
to your feelings. Write everything
down. Ignore faces for a moment or
the pain it would cause to them. Simply
put them down on the paper.
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You can also make a very strong commitment
on your career. You can prove yourself by
being successful in front of your unworthy
ex who dumped you. Have you not heard the
saying that ‘Behind everyman’s
success, there is a woman’? (also
behind suicides) Why can’t you fulfill
this proverb in your own way? Turn your
love failure into your inspiring force.
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