Let me tell you something. Every human being shows their best when they are in love. The pitfall is that they show only their best. If you notice, you can see that even the animals display only their best during the courting season. But the problem sets in when the mode of relationship changes. Among animals, they are not looking for a life-long partnership and don’t have to live under a roof together. When they get their business done, its over. This is not the case with us. When two people who believed that they know each other truly and completely, gets under a roof and starts living together, the true self, the true weaknesses of both these people starts to unveil. And so does the problems. They starts wondering whether they knew this person at all.

There lies a simple solution to this problem. Be the same person during love, that you are going to be after marriage. In simpler terms, be yourself. This lets your partner know you exactly and lets the adjustment process set in, so that after-marriage surprises can be avoided. But what if you decides to showcase all your negatives but your partner simply puts a mask on and pretends as some-one else that he/she is really not? The relationship will ultimately fail.

I read somewhere that LOVE IS A BEAUTIFUL TEMPLE WITH TWO PILLARS. If one of the pillars is weak, the structure can’t stand strong. That pillar will fall someday. Let it fall if it wants to. Let the whole temple fall. You – the strong pillar will keep standing and on the way you will meet a stronger pillar with whom you can rebuild the temple once again. You can definitely seek a new beginning.

In all our lives, changes happen. Some changes may be slow and peaceful. Some may be harsh and drastic (like a break up). These sudden changes might appear to us as devastating at the moment. But in the long run they prove to be the most beneficial. During our happy times in life, we learn very little. But our tough times, however short the time-span be, it filters us from head to toe, gives us a new perspective and teach a whole lot of lessons.